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Eunectes Aberystwyth 03 Apr 15 1.18pm
Another lifelong sufferer here (both depression and CPFC!). Over the years I've spent times on a wide variety of SSRIs and tried many forms of therapy. Personally (and experience differs for everyone), I didn't find counselling or CBT particularly helpful, but did invest heavily in some hypnotherapy many years ago, which certainly helped. I also found trying some positive thought exercises a self-defence instructor called Geoff Thompson described as "challenging the inner opponent"; the theory being that human brains are somewhat predisposed to think negative thoughts, and learning to challenge them can be helpful in remaining positive and productive. Other than that, I have basically learned to be accepting that for some periods of time I will be depressed and struggle, It's just part of being me! The trick is to remind yourself that it will pass eventually, and learn to "reality check" your thoughts and opinions. That said, medication still has it's uses from time to time; I'm currently back on the citalopram, after many years without medication. Largely because, in a position of severe stress and pressure, it was quite clear everything was on it's way to falling to pieces if I didn't go for help. Sometimes these things are a practical neccesity (although I try not to tinker with my brain chemistry for prolonged periods if I can avoid it). Whatever course of action you choose, at least you're self-aware enough to understand there is an issue that needs dealing with, and are looking for help. Good luck!
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Aberystwyth 03 Apr 15 1.18pm

Another lifelong sufferer here (both depression and CPFC!). Over the years I've spent times on a wide variety of SSRIs and tried many forms of therapy. Personally (and experience differs for everyone), I didn't find counselling or CBT particularly helpful, but did invest heavily in some hypnotherapy many years ago, which certainly helped. I also found trying some positive thought exercises a self-defence instructor called Geoff Thompson described as "challenging the inner opponent"; the theory being that human brains are somewhat predisposed to think negative thoughts, and learning to challenge them can be helpful in remaining positive and productive. Other than that, I have basically learned to be accepting that for some periods of time I will be depressed and struggle, It's just part of being me! The trick is to remind yourself that it will pass eventually, and learn to "reality check" your thoughts and opinions. That said, medication still has it's uses from time to time; I'm currently back on the citalopram, after many years without medication. Largely because, in a position of severe stress and pressure, it was quite clear everything was on it's way to falling to pieces if I didn't go for help. Sometimes these things are a practical neccesity (although I try not to tinker with my brain chemistry for prolonged periods if I can avoid it).

Whatever course of action you choose, at least you're self-aware enough to understand there is an issue that needs dealing with, and are looking for help. Good luck!

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blind eagle Covington.Tennessee 03 Apr 15 3.41pm
I suffered severe depression for years after being fired . The only way I survived was to dedicate myself to a specific cause. I chose my family and I went out of my way to give them everything I had to give. However you could choose a relationship,somebody who is sick.kids in need .There are lots and lots of good causes and ,given time,you will certainly recover because I did.
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Covington.Tennessee 03 Apr 15 3.41pm

I suffered severe depression for years after being fired . The only way I survived was to dedicate myself to a specific cause. I chose my family and I went out of my way to give them everything I had to give. However you could choose a relationship,somebody who is sick.kids in need .There are lots and lots of good causes and ,given time,you will certainly recover because I did.

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Seth On a pale blue dot 03 Apr 15 3.48pm
Some people swear by Mindfulness as a way of treating depression. Here's a good book to start if anyone's interested: [Link] "You can feel the stadium jumping. The stadium is actually physically moving up and down" FA Cup MOTD 24/4/16
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On a pale blue dot 03 Apr 15 3.48pm

Some people swear by Mindfulness as a way of treating depression. Here's a good book to start if anyone's interested: [Link]

"You can feel the stadium jumping. The stadium is actually physically moving up and down"
FA Cup MOTD 24/4/16

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cpfccolin Dorset 03 Apr 15 6.51pm
If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country. Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life. I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work. I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill. I get on with life
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Dorset 03 Apr 15 6.51pm

If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country.

Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life.

I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work.

I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill.

I get on with life

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Superfly The sun always shines in Catford 06 Apr 15 11.14am
Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country. Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life. I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work. I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill. I get on with life Thanks for pointing that out. For a moment I thought you might be a counsellor. Lend me a Tenor 31 May to 3 June 2017 John McIntosh Arts Centre London Oratory School SW6 1RX with Superfly in the chorus [Link]
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Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm

If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country.

Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life.

I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work.

I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill.

I get on with life

Thanks for pointing that out. For a moment I thought you might be a counsellor.

Lend me a Tenor

31 May to 3 June 2017

John McIntosh Arts Centre
London Oratory School
SW6 1RX

with Superfly in the chorus
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kingdowieonthewall Sussex, ex-Cronx. 06 Apr 15 6.56pm
Quote Superfly at 06 Apr 2015 11.14am Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country. Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life. I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work. I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill. I get on with life Thanks for pointing that out. For a moment I thought you might be a counsellor. Kids,tired of being bothered by your pesky parents? Then leave home, get a job & pay your own bills, while you still know everything.
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Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm

If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country.

Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life.

I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work.

I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill.

I get on with life

Thanks for pointing that out. For a moment I thought you might be a counsellor.

Kids,tired of being bothered by your pesky parents?
Then leave home, get a job & pay your own bills, while you still know everything.

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Lucas Oliver Miles away 06 Apr 15 7.08pm
Never had depression and don't really get the moping malarkey. However the amount of people who seem to have a lot going for them and still get it is huge. I think it's one of those where you don't really get what it's all about until you've had it. If I was to top myself I'd scale the Arthur and do a running long jump/swallow dive on to the pitch. Nope it's not my name
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Miles away 06 Apr 15 7.08pm

Never had depression and don't really get the moping malarkey. However the amount of people who seem to have a lot going for them and still get it is huge. I think it's one of those where you don't really get what it's all about until you've had it.

If I was to top myself I'd scale the Arthur and do a running long jump/swallow dive on to the pitch.

Nope it's not my name

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suicideatselhurst crawley 06 Apr 15 8.24pm
Quote Lucas Oliver at 06 Apr 2015 7.08pm Never had depression and don't really get the moping malarkey. However the amount of people who seem to have a lot going for them and still get it is huge. I think it's one of those where you don't really get what it's all about until you've had it. If I was to top myself I'd scale the Arthur and do a running long jump/swallow dive on to the pitch. You have to be over 250 feet to ensure you dont survive ...you might just end up getting put in a wheel chair for the rest of your life..now thats something that might get you down Theres someone in my head ... But its not me X/Box game Tag bazcpfc1961, clan (HMS)
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crawley 06 Apr 15 8.24pm

Quote Lucas Oliver at 06 Apr 2015 7.08pm

If I was to top myself I'd scale the Arthur and do a running long jump/swallow dive on to the pitch.

You have to be over 250 feet to ensure you dont survive ...you might just end up getting put in a wheel chair for the rest of your life..now thats something that might get you down

Theres someone in my head ... But its not me

X/Box game Tag bazcpfc1961, clan (HMS)

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suicideatselhurst crawley 06 Apr 15 8.24pm
Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country. Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life. I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work. I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill. I get on with life Always good to see a hol member with a caring side towards their fellow man Theres someone in my head ... But its not me X/Box game Tag bazcpfc1961, clan (HMS)
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crawley 06 Apr 15 8.24pm

Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm

If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country.

Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life.

I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work.

I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill.

I get on with life

Always good to see a hol member with a caring side towards their fellow man

Theres someone in my head ... But its not me

X/Box game Tag bazcpfc1961, clan (HMS)

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jamiemartin721 Reading 07 Apr 15 10.28am
Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country. Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life. I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work. I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill. I get on with life Depression isn't being sad, its the loss of affect. It can be triggered by things like grief or loss etc but effectively its a disorder in the production - either from under production, or higher reuptake at the synaptic gap. This generally has a hereditory basis, and is considered present as a predisposition. People prone to depression simply biologically lack a capacity to recover in incidents that trigger their disorder, and that without intervention and treatment, the disorder itself simply creates a greater loss of affect (essentially its a feedback loop). As a result, most people within the first few bouts spiral, because they lack the biological basis of recovery or the cognative skills required to address and identify root causes of the spiral. Depression isn't about being sad or unhappy, its about the loss of the capacity for affect entirely. When I'm sad, I'm paradoxically not depressed, and that in itself makes me happy. You know those days when you wake up in the middle of the night, and can't sleep, when you know everything is pointless, meaningless and has no value, that no matter what you do, nothing happens or changes. Thats me on a average day, all of the time. The meds take the edge off, the experience gives me tools to stabalise. My life is pretty good (I'm self employed, earn a good living etc) but that makes no difference. "One Nation Under God, has turned into One Nation Under the Influence of One Drug" [Link]
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Reading 07 Apr 15 10.28am

Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm

If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country.

Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life.

I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work.

I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill.
I get on with life

Depression isn't being sad, its the loss of affect. It can be triggered by things like grief or loss etc but effectively its a disorder in the production - either from under production, or higher reuptake at the synaptic gap.

This generally has a hereditory basis, and is considered present as a predisposition.

People prone to depression simply biologically lack a capacity to recover in incidents that trigger their disorder, and that without intervention and treatment, the disorder itself simply creates a greater loss of affect (essentially its a feedback loop).

As a result, most people within the first few bouts spiral, because they lack the biological basis of recovery or the cognative skills required to address and identify root causes of the spiral.

Depression isn't about being sad or unhappy, its about the loss of the capacity for affect entirely. When I'm sad, I'm paradoxically not depressed, and that in itself makes me happy.

You know those days when you wake up in the middle of the night, and can't sleep, when you know everything is pointless, meaningless and has no value, that no matter what you do, nothing happens or changes. Thats me on a average day, all of the time.

The meds take the edge off, the experience gives me tools to stabalise. My life is pretty good (I'm self employed, earn a good living etc) but that makes no difference.

"One Nation Under God, has turned into One Nation Under the Influence of One Drug"
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jamiemartin721 Reading 07 Apr 15 10.29am
Quote Lucas Oliver at 06 Apr 2015 7.08pm Never had depression and don't really get the moping malarkey. However the amount of people who seem to have a lot going for them and still get it is huge. I think it's one of those where you don't really get what it's all about until you've had it. If I was to top myself I'd scale the Arthur and do a running long jump/swallow dive on to the pitch. Indeed. In Bold - The Shefti Suicide. "One Nation Under God, has turned into One Nation Under the Influence of One Drug" [Link]
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jamiemartin721

Reading 07 Apr 15 10.29am

Quote Lucas Oliver at 06 Apr 2015 7.08pm

If I was to top myself I'd scale the Arthur and do a running long jump/swallow dive on to the pitch.

Indeed.

In Bold - The Shefti Suicide.

"One Nation Under God, has turned into One Nation Under the Influence of One Drug"
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Kermit8 Hevon 07 Apr 15 1.12pm
Quote jamiemartin721 at 07 Apr 2015 10.28am Quote cpfccolin at 03 Apr 2015 6.51pm If everyone suffered with depression because their wife left them or they lost tier job, this would be a very sorry state of a country. Get over it grow a pair, we all have lost a job or a girlfriend or have a family member die its part of life. I am a self employed plumber/Multi-trader with a family I don't always have work every day or week, sometimes go a couple of months without work. I don't take pity on myself and start crying like a baby and say I feel depressed I have no work, quick let me run to the doctor and take a pill. I get on with life Depression isn't being sad, its the loss of affect. It can be triggered by things like grief or loss etc but effectively its a disorder in the production - either from under production, or higher reuptake at the synaptic gap. This generally has a hereditory basis, and is considered present as a predisposition. People prone to depression simply biologically lack a capacity to recover in incidents that trigger their disorder, and that without intervention and treatment, the disorder itself simply creates a greater loss of affect (essentially its a feedback loop). As a result, most people within the first few bouts spiral, because they lack the biological basis of recovery or the cognative skills required to address and identify root causes of the spiral. Depression isn't about being sad or unhappy, its about the loss of the capacity for affect entirely. When I'm sad, I'm paradoxically not depressed, and that in itself makes me happy. You know those days when you wake up in the middle of the night, and can't sleep, when you know everything is pointless, meaningless and has no value, that no matter what you do, nothing happens or changes. Thats me on a average day, all of the time. The meds take the edge off, the experience gives me tools to stabalise. My life is pretty good (I'm self employed, earn a good living etc) but that makes no difference. Not a sufferer but kinda understand where you are coming from. The pointlessness of life can obviously be overwhelming but there are things out there which can keep you very busy and can make it go right to the back of the queue in our thoughts. So much so that it becomes pointless to even dwell on it. 'What's that, son?' - 'you want to bankrupt me again in monopoly?' Love is the drug. Big chest and massive boobs [Link]
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Quote jamiemartin721 at 07 Apr 2015 10.28am