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Diagnosed with Depression. Help?
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 madcap_v2  SE25 / Ibiza 12 Jun 14 1.41pm |
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Quote Seth at 12 Jun 2014 2.23am
It's good to talk. Literally. Whether it's on here, to your GP, to your mates or family or to a counsellor, try to talk it out an hopefully things will become clearer to you. All the very best, and ignore the perfect people who've never made a mistake in their perfect lives This. A girl I have been dating recently, started showing some strange behavioural patterns and eventually confided in me that she had a history of depression. Her mechanism to dealing with it was to shut people out and sleep. It was kinda a long distance thing, so getting in the car to drag her out of bed wasn't much of an option, so we would talk, for hours about what's bothering her, life, future plans & the interests we shared. The only problem I had was to keep her talking when I wasn't around to talk to, so I suggested she see a doctor, which she has. Turns out she has anxiety, depression and severe psychological distress and although getting hold of her is pretty difficult. Getting her doing stuff and spending time with people who focus her on other things is helping. She's getting counselling too and has taken up running to clear her head. Giving her stuff to look forward to is definitely helping her. Ultimately though, we won't end up together I don't think, but we'll always be close.
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| Shortbloke Croydon 12 Jun 14 1.43pm |
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Stuart I'm a regular visitor on here but don’t post much, but wanted to just share my view. Anyone who has genuinely suffered from depression will understand and sympathise with what you are going through – regardless of what “wrongs” you may have done. You are already heading in the right direction having admitted you are struggling and need help, that’s not easy. Medication DOES help some people, each person is different and each one comes with its own pros and cons and they all take time to settle down, so I would 100% recommend you stick with them. I would highly recommend going to a cognitive behavioural therapy group, talk to your Dr and ask them to refer you as NHS offer a free service, group therapy is far better although it does seem daunting at first. Before anyone says anything I'm not a wannabe counsellor, therapist or a crazy preacher, just a fellow fan who knows what it’s like. Its little comfort at first, but you will be surprised at how many people are in the same boat mate and have or are going through similar, so your defo not alone… Depression and Supporting Palace… who’d have thought it eh Good luck mate.
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Frickin Saweet  South Cronx 12 Jun 14 2.52pm |
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..."constantly looking at old photos and old emails of love". Dude you need to stop doing that. If you want to move forward you have to face in the right direction not keep looking back. Delete all that s*** - out of sight out of mind.
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| fledgling Beckenham 12 Jun 14 3.10pm |
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Quote Shortbloke at 12 Jun 2014 1.43pm
Stuart I'm a regular visitor on here but don’t post much, but wanted to just share my view. Anyone who has genuinely suffered from depression will understand and sympathise with what you are going through – regardless of what “wrongs” you may have done. You are already heading in the right direction having admitted you are struggling and need help, that’s not easy. Medication DOES help some people, each person is different and each one comes with its own pros and cons and they all take time to settle down, so I would 100% recommend you stick with them. I would highly recommend going to a cognitive behavioural therapy group, talk to your Dr and ask them to refer you as NHS offer a free service, group therapy is far better although it does seem daunting at first. Before anyone says anything I'm not a wannabe counsellor, therapist or a crazy preacher, just a fellow fan who knows what it’s like. Its little comfort at first, but you will be surprised at how many people are in the same boat mate and have or are going through similar, so your defo not alone… Depression and Supporting Palace… who’d have thought it eh Good luck mate. Would echo this. CBT has helped me no end. Never suffered from depression but therapy has helped me keep my destructive behaviours in check.
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| Hoof Hearted 12 Jun 14 4.27pm | |
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In life you need but one piece of advice, "Tis better to have loved and lost than marry the silly cow!"
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| Superfly The sun always shines in Catford 12 Jun 14 4.47pm |
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Quote Hoof Hearted at 12 Jun 2014 4.27pm
In life you need but one piece of advice, "Tis better to have loved and lost than marry the silly cow!"
Women..... Can't live with'em........ Pass the beer nuts
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| Stuart Shave Hampshire 12 Jun 14 6.15pm |
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Thank you all for the latest set of posts. All great advice and help as a way of trying to move forward.
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| Hoof Hearted 13 Jun 14 10.44am | |
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Quote Stuart Shave at 12 Jun 2014 6.15pm
Thank you all for the latest set of posts. All great advice and help as a way of trying to move forward.
Pay attention next time... LOL
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| Lyons550 Shirley 13 Jun 14 1.16pm |
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Quote gambler at 11 Jun 2014 8.36pm
Quote TUX at 11 Jun 2014 8.31pm
I then followed that up in 2007 with getting close to one of my best mates wife (they were seperated) she cofided in me, did all the running and I was hooked again. I stopped reading here. This is all I need to know about you.
Good luck Stuart, can't really help you myself, but wish you all the best. Remember, you don't know what's around the corner. The best times of your life are probably still to come
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| LeBoeuf Bermondsey 23 Jun 14 8.40pm |
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get professional help from a shrink. And get prescribed by one (better than a gp). Getting the right meds is crucial. Im on citalopram, as i have a serotonin imbalance. But everyone's different. Try also getting one on one therapy. I would stress that it doesnt work for everyone tho. If you go, put the hard yards in. What i mean is, be straight wiv em, and do your "homework" that theyll give you. You're wasting each others time if you dont. Some weeks for me were f***ing tough, mentally draining. But its worth it if you put the work in.
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| LeBoeuf Bermondsey 23 Jun 14 8.46pm |
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ps. You may find that you sleep a lot at times. Dont sweat this either (unless it becomes like, really a lot).
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| Holmesdale Nick South Croydon 27 Jun 14 2.41pm |
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I was diagnosed with depression following divorce. I was not prescribed any tablets, but had a course of CBT sessions. What helped for me was: Look to the future and not dwell on the past. Take up sport / exercise. Try to make plans so you have things to look forward to at the weekends / in a week / months time
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