I think that sense can go out of the window sometimes but I would definitely stay with the wife. But it just goes to show how people can get under your skin and never quite leave you be. I know someone who's hooked up with an ex recently and they split up about 10 years ago. It must be the comfort zone or rose-tinted specs.

Goodness is what you do. Not who you pray to.

Reading this makes me realise how lucky I've been in my love life. Most of my relationships (not that there have been that many) I have been the one doing the dumping, hence no real heartbreak.

One girl I was seeing at Uni for 3 weeks dumped me for a mate, using the excuse that she went out with me for my looks, and him for his personality (flattered and insulted at the same time, since he had the personality of a frozen pea). It wasn't much of a loss though, cos she wasn't that good looking and was a complete control freak (worse than me) - pinned Nick into proposing by the end of the year.

The only other time was also at Uni when I was seeing this girl, pretty much just for sex, and I found out she was shagging someone else at the same time. No real heartbreak, because there was no emotional tie, but I did miss the sex for a while. Then I met my wife, and the rest is history!

That's just the ramblings of a madman

I still hate my ex after what she did (even after nearly 2 years) and don't have any feelings any more, so in no way whatsoever would I ever go back with her.
I just hope the same thing happens to her someday. Petty, I know, but I want her to know how it feels. I'm not a nasty person and I am good friends with my other ex's but she crossed the line in my mind.

It was my dream to play for Palace and to make my debut. I've always played for the club so if I'm playing here, I wouldn't want to be anywhere else.

- John Bostock (Nov 2007)

Aww it's mighty nice of you to say that, Jim. Just don't forget who to write the cheques to when you win the lottery!

Goodness is what you do. Not who you pray to.

I'm still young. So mine is weak.

16. Loved this Irish bird. She was stunning, had it all. I can't emphasise this enough, even though alot of you are older than she is/was, you'd still do a double take on her. Fit as. Anywho I'm not the 'attached' type, but I was head over arse about this girl. I got to know her, she got to know me. Eventually we got closer and closer.

One night we were out at a party, she drank one too many and was extremely ill. I spent the night with her (not what you think) and looked after her. And I'll tell you, it was quite a task. THe next day she came up to me, gave me the biggest hug and a peck on the cheek. I thought here we go, I'm on to a winner. Couple of weeks later we were mucking around (quite good mates then, tough to remember now as we aren't on the best of terms). She said something to the effect of 'you're great Jack', I replied and 'yeah, but you dont love me'. We were going out to another party (both were friends birthdays). So she goes why not talk to me about it tonight, all the while rubbing her leg up against mine.

Skip to the end, we went out, and when I went looking for her to try and seal the deal... I found her snoggin this stoner, a right sleazy b******. They were an item for a few weeks broke up. But I got well jealous, and was a complete arse to her for the last 2 years. We don't see each other now.

Like I say, weak story in comparison, but you asked for my worst. Thanks to her leading me on, I don't see myself looking for a girlfriend for quite a while, and a friendship with this lass I really enjoyed was ruined.

Ah well.

I think that it's to do with trying to protect people's feelings, so telling someone they're too nice is along the same lines as "it's not you it's me". I think they're both often reasons given where there isn't really a reason.

Not that I'm an expert on the subject - never had to dump anyone, as I've been going out with my fiance since we were 15 and in year 11 at school.