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johnno42000 Flag 28 Jul 17 8.59pm Send a Private Message to johnno42000 Add johnno42000 as a friend

Originally posted by wordup

Because people are usually automatically assumed to be heterosexual and so if someone isn't it tends to come up at some stage.

"do you have a girlfriend, mate?"

"no, i'm gay"

"farkinn ell geezer, keep that sh!t to yourself!"

Fair point but it was in relation to the article about the film. Can't see the point of saying that people aren't defined and then go and define them. Seems a bit of a peculiar thing to do.

 


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wordup Flag 28 Jul 17 9.13pm

Originally posted by johnno42000

Fair point but it was in relation to the article about the film. Can't see the point of saying that people aren't defined and then go and define them. Seems a bit of a peculiar thing to do.

I see what you're saying, yes. I guess the message to take is that it's not the whole of the person, but at the same time it's still a difference. There are degrees of acknowledging something and being defined by it.

 

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Yellow Card - User has been warned of conduct on the messageboards Hrolf The Ganger Flag 28 Jul 17 9.29pm Send a Private Message to Hrolf The Ganger Add Hrolf The Ganger as a friend

Originally posted by wordup

1 - Gays aren't infertile

2 - If you talk about having a gay son like it's a failing, your son may well be unhappy. If you love and embrace a person for who they they most likely will not be unhappy whatever their sexuality is.

1. No, but they are far less likely to have children for obvious reasons. I'm not getting into a Pythonesque 'right to have babies' debate on that one.

Current society does not entirely view homosexuality as 'normal' just yet even though bisexuality and varied tastes have been part of many previous cultures. I'm certain that many gay people feel the pressure of that and perhaps a degree of guilt that comes with feeling 'different'. I am not gay so I can't speak for gay people. Neither could I speak for all gay people if I was gay. I can only make an observation.
I hope my son is straight because it is a lot easier to be in a majority in terms of sexuality and lifestyle. I would also not want him to miss out on having children and the progression in a relationship and of the self that that brings.

 

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Stirlingsays Flag 28 Jul 17 11.02pm Send a Private Message to Stirlingsays Holmesdale Online Elite Member Add Stirlingsays as a friend

Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger


I certainly want my son to be straight because I'd like some grand children and a happy life for him. If he wasn't, there is nothing I could do about it.
I have no time for rejecting homosexuality on religious grounds as I find religion too inflexible and irrational. If you don't want to sell someone a cake then don't say it's because they are gay. You can't discriminate against people because of their religion but you can if that involves the mistreatment of others. People can think what they like but actions are a different matter.

I agree with you....did they actually give that reason though? Still, some version of that could work...for that situation.

 


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Stirlingsays Flag 28 Jul 17 11.11pm Send a Private Message to Stirlingsays Holmesdale Online Elite Member Add Stirlingsays as a friend

Originally posted by wordup

1 - Gays aren't infertile

2 - If you talk about having a gay son like it's a failing, your son may well be unhappy. If you love and embrace a person for who they they most likely will not be unhappy whatever their sexuality is.

They aren't it's true but they are far less likely to continue your line...just a fact of life. Given a choice, I want my line to continue.

It's not a failing as, in most instances, it isn't a choice. Also I think recognising facts about reality shouldn't make someone unhappy.

To give an example using infertility. You don't wish to make your infertile son or daughter feel worse about the fact that they are born infertile. They are not a lesser person. But by the same token, given a choice plenty of parents would prefer that they were fertile......I think this is just common sense.....You could replace infertile with short or being born ugly.

I agree with you that if you bring your child up loved regardless of what they are then they certainly shouldn't feel to blame by what nature has given them.

I have two male toddlers and I adore them. Me, not viewing all sexualities as equally useful doesn't change that regardless of what they are. They are Stirlings and that is all they need to be.

Edited by Stirlingsays (29 Jul 2017 8.21am)

 


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jamiemartin721 Flag Reading 29 Jul 17 8.52am

Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger

1. No, but they are far less likely to have children for obvious reasons. I'm not getting into a Pythonesque 'right to have babies' debate on that one.

Current society does not entirely view homosexuality as 'normal' just yet even though bisexuality and varied tastes have been part of many previous cultures. I'm certain that many gay people feel the pressure of that and perhaps a degree of guilt that comes with feeling 'different'. I am not gay so I can't speak for gay people. Neither could I speak for all gay people if I was gay. I can only make an observation.
I hope my son is straight because it is a lot easier to be in a majority in terms of sexuality and lifestyle. I would also not want him to miss out on having children and the progression in a relationship and of the self that that brings.

I don't think you have to miss out on any part of life these days if you are gay. Not being in the majority and looking in has its own rewards.

Having kids does change people but that in itself isn't inherently more valuable either. Its just different. After all its just following your biological and social conditioning.

 


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jamiemartin721 Flag Reading 29 Jul 17 9.03am

Originally posted by Stirlingsays


It's ok to be gay, sure it is...No one should be ashamed of their nature. However there are problems in this when we start to widen this 'accept nature' idea. It's why I reject an equality argument and instead push a fairness one.

I would argue, that it's also ok not to view heterosexuality and homosexuality as equal in worth to humanity. They just aren't.

However, It's just not ok to make homosexuals suffer for what is predominantly 'nature given', where it can be reasonably avoided. Much in the same way it isn't ok to treat small or short or low IQ people badly.

On an evolutionary basis having gay relatives is a massive boon for your gene pool and children. Biologically speaking a gay sibling will massively benefit the life opportunities of your your kids, specifically because they can't biological have kids, meaning their sole means of passing on traits is through relatives, notably their niece and nephews. It surprised me as a childless man how quickly to take to concern over how you can switch resources towards your siblings children when you have none. That pool of additional resource financial and emotional serves a massive evolutionary role

 


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Stirlingsays Flag 29 Jul 17 9.26am Send a Private Message to Stirlingsays Holmesdale Online Elite Member Add Stirlingsays as a friend

Originally posted by jamiemartin721

On an evolutionary basis having gay relatives is a massive boon for your gene pool and children. Biologically speaking a gay sibling will massively benefit the life opportunities of your your kids, specifically because they can't biological have kids, meaning their sole means of passing on traits is through relatives, notably their niece and nephews. It surprised me as a childless man how quickly to take to concern over how you can switch resources towards your siblings children when you have none. That pool of additional resource financial and emotional serves a massive evolutionary role

I don't think any of that is proven and I've heard the argument before but it doesn't quite make enough sense to me.

None of what you say here has an advantage for the species compared to an individual who creates children.

Being gay doesn't mean you are interested in the welfare of other people's children, relatives or not. You may be, you may not.

Also another argument against your contention is the fact that homosexuality occurs just as frequently in other species where social 'rearing' isn't a thing.

Personally I don't know why it happens....If I were to guess I think it's down to variations in the wiring for attraction...Also, passed down genetics that occasionally reoccur. I don't know.

 


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Stirlingsays Flag 29 Jul 17 9.31am Send a Private Message to Stirlingsays Holmesdale Online Elite Member Add Stirlingsays as a friend

Originally posted by jamiemartin721

Having kids does change people but that in itself isn't inherently more valuable either. Its just different. After all its just following your biological and social conditioning.

Of course having kids is more valuable than not having kids. Some people are more suitable to it than others but there's no equality here...unless you are into warm words of course....plenty of that about.

You should judge your own behaviour's 'valuableness' by projecting out what the result would be if everybody did what you do.

Edited by Stirlingsays (29 Jul 2017 9.34am)

 


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Yellow Card - User has been warned of conduct on the messageboards Hrolf The Ganger Flag 29 Jul 17 10.01am Send a Private Message to Hrolf The Ganger Add Hrolf The Ganger as a friend

Originally posted by jamiemartin721

I don't think you have to miss out on any part of life these days if you are gay. Not being in the majority and looking in has its own rewards.

Having kids does change people but that in itself isn't inherently more valuable either. Its just different. After all its just following your biological and social conditioning.

I see heterosexual couples without children and they seem to just carry on doing the same stuff they always did, just trying to find things to amuse themselves in an understandably selfish and self indulgent way while having multiple dogs or cats as stand in children. It's a bit like two single people living together who just happen to have sex and go out occasionally. I'm guessing it is similar for gay couples.
Without a focus for your relationship and re positioning of your importance in the scheme of things, I don't think you really experience the most rewarding part of life or shake off your own self importance. It makes the value of a relationship a bit shaky once the thrill has gone. I know that those without kids will disagree but they would wouldn't they.

Edited by Hrolf The Ganger (29 Jul 2017 10.03am)

 

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Stirlingsays Flag 29 Jul 17 10.53am Send a Private Message to Stirlingsays Holmesdale Online Elite Member Add Stirlingsays as a friend

Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger

I see heterosexual couples without children and they seem to just carry on doing the same stuff they always did, just trying to find things to amuse themselves in an understandably selfish and self indulgent way while having multiple dogs or cats as stand in children. It's a bit like two single people living together who just happen to have sex and go out occasionally. I'm guessing it is similar for gay couples.
Without a focus for your relationship and re positioning of your importance in the scheme of things, I don't think you really experience the most rewarding part of life or shake off your own self importance. It makes the value of a relationship a bit shaky once the thrill has gone. I know that those without kids will disagree but they would wouldn't they.

Edited by Hrolf The Ganger (29 Jul 2017 10.03am)

Essentially I agree.

Some behaviours in life are more useful to society than others. Most of us are combinations of useful and un-useful behaviours. Society often doesn't really reward people along a societal value system as its measure for value is strictly financial....hence why a nurse earns nothing compared to a footballer yet performs a far more valuable role in terms of serious impact.

Each individual's life is unique of course though we all fall into various groups that can be generalised over for convenience. So within that context we can discuss the 'usefulness' or not of those groups to some societal aim or other.

It's important though to stress that this isn't a 'blame game'. It's just a recognition of reality rather than a warm flow of words. As stated no one is to blame for their inherent nature.

If I were to be critical it would be directed at certain individuals I've met in life....I can think of two successful male teachers....individuals who were very moralistic and idealistic about how others should behave....Yet when you learnt about their own life you quickly saw how self absorbed and selfish they were..not bad people, just not exactly examples either....neither of them had children of course.

Edited by Stirlingsays (29 Jul 2017 11.01am)

 


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nickgusset Flag Shizzlehurst 22 Aug 17 3.43pm

Did I hear right? Bradley Walsh to be new assistant!

 

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