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Slimey Toad Karsiyaka, North Cyprus 17 May 22 8.18am
I can understand those who say 'big deal' and he could say nothing and just turn up for the Blackpool POTY Awards with his boyfriend. Then there would be a media frenzy. Whereas now he has taken ownership. As RH says he will do well out of it. And apparently he is good at putting the ball in the net. Are you watching PV? That would spice up our Brighton matches.
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Karsiyaka, North Cyprus 17 May 22 8.18am

I can understand those who say 'big deal' and he could say nothing and just turn up for the Blackpool POTY Awards with his boyfriend. Then there would be a media frenzy. Whereas now he has taken ownership.

As RH says he will do well out of it. And apparently he is good at putting the ball in the net. Are you watching PV? That would spice up our Brighton matches.

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taylors lovechild 17 May 22 8.46am
Originally posted by Badger11 Good luck to the lad but I hope Blackpool protect him from the media. He is a 17yo lad I hope that the likes of Stonewall etc don't decide to use him as a poster boy for gay rights. It's not fair on one so young to expect them to answer questions that the FIFA / UEFA / PFA / FA / PL regularly duct. For example: If you were in the England team would you go to the World Cup in Qatar? Will you play against Russia even though Putin has an anti gay agenda ? I just hope that he is left alone to play his football. I agree that he is brave and I also hope someone more high profile comes out to take the weight off his shoulders. The fact you can't be an openly gay footballer in 2022 points out how stuck in the dark ages football can be despite all of the PR exercises. Fortunately the younger generations are more educated about such things and from my experience are more open minded and tolerant (outside of evangelical religious groups). Also, just a point, but 'coming out' is a political act when it is done in an area where being openly gay is not yet seen as acceptable. It is saying to other gay players that this is ok, you don't have to feel you are abnormal. The fact that it has taken a 17-year-old kid to make this move shows a lot of work needs to be done. At the end of the day all anyone really wants is to be allowed to live their life freely without persecution. If it really was widely accepted to be a gay footballer then this wouldn't even make the local news let along the national.
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Originally posted by Badger11

Good luck to the lad but I hope Blackpool protect him from the media.

He is a 17yo lad I hope that the likes of Stonewall etc don't decide to use him as a poster boy for gay rights. It's not fair on one so young to expect them to answer questions that the FIFA / UEFA / PFA / FA / PL regularly duct.

For example:

If you were in the England team would you go to the World Cup in Qatar?

Will you play against Russia even though Putin has an anti gay agenda ?

I just hope that he is left alone to play his football.

I agree that he is brave and I also hope someone more high profile comes out to take the weight off his shoulders. The fact you can't be an openly gay footballer in 2022 points out how stuck in the dark ages football can be despite all of the PR exercises. Fortunately the younger generations are more educated about such things and from my experience are more open minded and tolerant (outside of evangelical religious groups).

Also, just a point, but 'coming out' is a political act when it is done in an area where being openly gay is not yet seen as acceptable. It is saying to other gay players that this is ok, you don't have to feel you are abnormal. The fact that it has taken a 17-year-old kid to make this move shows a lot of work needs to be done. At the end of the day all anyone really wants is to be allowed to live their life freely without persecution. If it really was widely accepted to be a gay footballer then this wouldn't even make the local news let along the national.

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Teddy Eagle 17 May 22 9.00am
There have been gay players in rugby,cricket, tennis, American football, etc as well as gay boxers. Is the problem here that football fans are any less tolerant or is it the media's insistence that they are? How likely are football fans to reject, or even notice, gay musicians, actors or authors?
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17 May 22 9.00am

There have been gay players in rugby,cricket, tennis, American football, etc as well as gay boxers.
Is the problem here that football fans are any less tolerant or is it the media's insistence that they are?
How likely are football fans to reject, or even notice, gay musicians, actors or authors?

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CrazyBadger Ware 17 May 22 9.03am
I too could not give a rats a*rse of his sexual orientation - but that still does not make it any the less important in a world where you feel like if you 'come out' as a footballer, you're opening yourself up to a world of abuse and hatred. The utopia is that someone can state their sexual preferences, and no-one gives a hoot, but we ain't there yet. Fair play for him to doing so I reckon. "It was a Team effort, I guess it took all players working together to lose this one"
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Ware 17 May 22 9.03am

I too could not give a rats a*rse of his sexual orientation - but that still does not make it any the less important in a world where you feel like if you 'come out' as a footballer, you're opening yourself up to a world of abuse and hatred.

The utopia is that someone can state their sexual preferences, and no-one gives a hoot, but we ain't there yet.
Fair play for him to doing so I reckon.

"It was a Team effort, I guess it took all players working together to lose this one"

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Stirlingsays 17 May 22 9.18am
To treat this situation seriously I really have to point out that this has absolutely nothing to do with football. This is about identity politics. I have no issue with that within politics itself however this is meant to be sport. However, we don't get a choice, whether it's football or cricket or anything we are forced to listen to what organisations and activists think the common supporter should think about issues. They have as much right to do that as I have to tell them what they should think.....but as we have seen with BLM they can't keep politics out of sport and want to virtue signal and divide inside it. If this young man has independently decided that he wants the world to know who he prefers to have sex with then, while I regard that attitude as weird it's for him. However, the vast majority of people are only interested in the game. Not the pushing of sexual politics via the game. Edited by Stirlingsays (17 May 2022 9.21am) 'Who are you and how did you get in here? I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.' (Leslie Nielsen)
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17 May 22 9.18am

To treat this situation seriously I really have to point out that this has absolutely nothing to do with football.

This is about identity politics. I have no issue with that within politics itself however this is meant to be sport.

However, we don't get a choice, whether it's football or cricket or anything we are forced to listen to what organisations and activists think the common supporter should think about issues. They have as much right to do that as I have to tell them what they should think.....but as we have seen with BLM they can't keep politics out of sport and want to virtue signal and divide inside it.

If this young man has independently decided that he wants the world to know who he prefers to have sex with then, while I regard that attitude as weird it's for him.

However, the vast majority of people are only interested in the game. Not the pushing of sexual politics via the game.

Edited by Stirlingsays (17 May 2022 9.21am)

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PalazioVecchio south pole 17 May 22 9.34am
the levels of Homophobia (& concomitant violence) across the Third-World are truly staggering. It seems to be a cultural thing. some of those cultures need to be 'called-out' when they rear their ugly head on these shores. Good luck to that Blackpool footballer, he will need it. Edited by PalazioVecchio (17 May 2022 9.38am) Kayla did Anfield & Old Trafford
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the levels of Homophobia (& concomitant violence) across the Third-World are truly staggering. It seems to be a cultural thing.

some of those cultures need to be 'called-out' when they rear their ugly head on these shores.

Good luck to that Blackpool footballer, he will need it.

Edited by PalazioVecchio (17 May 2022 9.38am)

Kayla did Anfield & Old Trafford

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Nicholas91 The Democratic Republic of Kent 17 May 22 10.05am
I do understand the thinking behind a lot of the statements however I don't think it relative here, as it stands. I don't like the politicisation of such things to any extent, especially football. If this lad's announcement leads to players 'bending the wrist' for a moment before games, claims of him being discriminated against when he's subbed/carded or anything else, a 'bring a gay friend to the Palace day' or rainbow flags infesting stadiums then yes, there will be some sincere grievances raised from me. However, I do not see it as such, as things stand. He's a young fella, still technically a child on the brink of adulthood, and if he chooses to announce he is who he is to get it off his chest, live his life healthily and so forth well then the best of luck to him. Another possibility is him not saying anything, being deeply unhappy and something tragic happening such as topping himself or living a sad life outside of football etc. My hope is that this blows over quickly, people don't become so inclined to abuse him horrendously from the stands, I'd happily see any good humoured teasing but that's probably a crime these days, and he goes on to have a career valued on his footballing merit as opposed to identity without any real abuse. I think jumping on it to express, via a glottal stop, 'Arghaahhhah, they're taking over football' or so called 'movements' hijacking it to try and promote their own bonkers ideologies would be a tragedy for the youngster and the game. Hasn't happened yet so I'm therefore inclined to say fair play, good for him, now let's move on. Edited by Nicholas91 (17 May 2022 10.06am) Now Zaha's got a bit of green grass ahead of him here... and finds Ambrose... not a bad effort!!!!
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The Democratic Republic of Kent 17 May 22 10.05am

I do understand the thinking behind a lot of the statements however I don't think it relative here, as it stands.

I don't like the politicisation of such things to any extent, especially football.

If this lad's announcement leads to players 'bending the wrist' for a moment before games, claims of him being discriminated against when he's subbed/carded or anything else, a 'bring a gay friend to the Palace day' or rainbow flags infesting stadiums then yes, there will be some sincere grievances raised from me.

However, I do not see it as such, as things stand. He's a young fella, still technically a child on the brink of adulthood, and if he chooses to announce he is who he is to get it off his chest, live his life healthily and so forth well then the best of luck to him. Another possibility is him not saying anything, being deeply unhappy and something tragic happening such as topping himself or living a sad life outside of football etc.

My hope is that this blows over quickly, people don't become so inclined to abuse him horrendously from the stands, I'd happily see any good humoured teasing but that's probably a crime these days, and he goes on to have a career valued on his footballing merit as opposed to identity without any real abuse.

I think jumping on it to express, via a glottal stop, 'Arghaahhhah, they're taking over football' or so called 'movements' hijacking it to try and promote their own bonkers ideologies would be a tragedy for the youngster and the game. Hasn't happened yet so I'm therefore inclined to say fair play, good for him, now let's move on.

Edited by Nicholas91 (17 May 2022 10.06am)

Now Zaha's got a bit of green grass ahead of him here... and finds Ambrose... not a bad effort!!!!

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Badger11 Beckenham 17 May 22 10.21am
Originally posted by Nicholas91 I do understand the thinking behind a lot of the statements however I don't think it relative here, as it stands. I don't like the politicisation of such things to any extent, especially football. If this lad's announcement leads to players 'bending the wrist' for a moment before games, claims of him being discriminated against when he's subbed/carded or anything else, a 'bring a gay friend to the Palace day' or rainbow flags infesting stadiums then yes, there will be some sincere grievances raised from me. However, I do not see it as such, as things stand. He's a young fella, still technically a child on the brink of adulthood, and if he chooses to announce he is who he is to get it off his chest, live his life healthily and so forth well then the best of luck to him. Another possibility is him not saying anything, being deeply unhappy and something tragic happening such as topping himself or living a sad life outside of football etc. My hope is that this blows over quickly, people don't become so inclined to abuse him horrendously from the stands, I'd happily see any good humoured teasing but that's probably a crime these days, and he goes on to have a career valued on his footballing merit as opposed to identity without any real abuse. I think jumping on it to express, via a glottal stop, 'Arghaahhhah, they're taking over football' or so called 'movements' hijacking it to try and promote their own bonkers ideologies would be a tragedy for the youngster and the game. Hasn't happened yet so I'm therefore inclined to say fair play, good for him, now let's move on. Edited by Nicholas91 (17 May 2022 10.06am) Perhaps one of the reasons that more players haven't come out is that they don't want to be seen as a spokesperson or to be used by groups who have agenda's. As another poster suggested it is only the media et al that say football fans (UK) are homophobic, is that really true of the majority? In my experience football fans only care about their team winning. If a player is rubbish or not seen to be putting a shift in he will get pelters and fans will pick on an obvious personal trait e.g. you fat bar steward or baldy etc. One more point
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Originally posted by Nicholas91

I do understand the thinking behind a lot of the statements however I don't think it relative here, as it stands.

I don't like the politicisation of such things to any extent, especially football.

Edited by Nicholas91 (17 May 2022 10.06am)

Perhaps one of the reasons that more players haven't come out is that they don't want to be seen as a spokesperson or to be used by groups who have agenda's.

As another poster suggested it is only the media et al that say football fans (UK) are homophobic, is that really true of the majority?

In my experience football fans only care about their team winning. If a player is rubbish or not seen to be putting a shift in he will get pelters and fans will pick on an obvious personal trait e.g. you fat bar steward or baldy etc.

One more point

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Nicholas91 The Democratic Republic of Kent 17 May 22 10.41am
Originally posted by Badger11 Perhaps one of the reasons that more players haven't come out is that they don't want to be seen as a spokesperson or to be used by groups who have agenda's. As another poster suggested it is only the media et al that say football fans (UK) are homophobic, is that really true of the majority? In my experience football fans only care about their team winning. If a player is rubbish or not seen to be putting a shift in he will get pelters and fans will pick on an obvious personal trait e.g. you fat bar steward or baldy etc. Yep I agree. I consider radical, ideological, hateful groups to be very much hand in hand with the media for a collaborative effort to sensationalise anything that doesn't fit with their own agendas/narrative or indeed could be highlighted to help boost their illogical activities. If anything, I think it's fuel to the fire of whatever light banter might have existed in football before to become far more aggressive than it would have been. I'm still working from home and have BBCnews on in the background throughout the day, I've just seen a person, who I am assured was a women though not convinced, from Chelsea of all clubs complaining about the 'rent boys' chant. My answer to that would be 'f**k off', nothing more and nothing less. Now Zaha's got a bit of green grass ahead of him here... and finds Ambrose... not a bad effort!!!!
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The Democratic Republic of Kent 17 May 22 10.41am

Originally posted by Badger11

Perhaps one of the reasons that more players haven't come out is that they don't want to be seen as a spokesperson or to be used by groups who have agenda's.

As another poster suggested it is only the media et al that say football fans (UK) are homophobic, is that really true of the majority?

Yep I agree.

I consider radical, ideological, hateful groups to be very much hand in hand with the media for a collaborative effort to sensationalise anything that doesn't fit with their own agendas/narrative or indeed could be highlighted to help boost their illogical activities.

If anything, I think it's fuel to the fire of whatever light banter might have existed in football before to become far more aggressive than it would have been. I'm still working from home and have BBCnews on in the background throughout the day, I've just seen a person, who I am assured was a women though not convinced, from Chelsea of all clubs complaining about the 'rent boys' chant. My answer to that would be 'f**k off', nothing more and nothing less.

Now Zaha's got a bit of green grass ahead of him here... and finds Ambrose... not a bad effort!!!!

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Rudi Hedman Caterham 17 May 22 11.07am
Originally posted by Nicholas91 I do understand the thinking behind a lot of the statements however I don't think it relative here, as it stands. I don't like the politicisation of such things to any extent, especially football. If this lad's announcement leads to players 'bending the wrist' for a moment before games, claims of him being discriminated against when he's subbed/carded or anything else, a 'bring a gay friend to the Palace day' or rainbow flags infesting stadiums then yes, there will be some sincere grievances raised from me. However, I do not see it as such, as things stand. He's a young fella, still technically a child on the brink of adulthood, and if he chooses to announce he is who he is to get it off his chest, live his life healthily and so forth well then the best of luck to him. Another possibility is him not saying anything, being deeply unhappy and something tragic happening such as topping himself or living a sad life outside of football etc. My hope is that this blows over quickly, people don't become so inclined to abuse him horrendously from the stands, I'd happily see any good humoured teasing but that's probably a crime these days, and he goes on to have a career valued on his footballing merit as opposed to identity without any real abuse. I think jumping on it to express, via a glottal stop, 'Arghaahhhah, they're taking over football' or so called 'movements' hijacking it to try and promote their own bonkers ideologies would be a tragedy for the youngster and the game. Hasn't happened yet so I'm therefore inclined to say fair play, good for him, now let's move on. Edited by Nicholas91 (17 May 2022 10.06am) The feminisation of Britain is already underway so I wouldn’t count on nauseating effeminate pro-gay stuff not being forced into the game. It’s the people in marketing and advertising that are always tempted to keep pushing it out there further and further. It’s a game to them and I wouldn’t trust them to just carry on normally. There’s too many sanctimonious snakes without an ounce of integrity. If they could they’d do a remake of the first Sky football advert for the premier league - the one with them all working out in the gym and getting ready and a leg rub down before putting their club’s kit on for the match to ‘Alive and Kicking’ by Simple Minds. They’d do a remake in some gay sauna or something right now if they could. (That advert was made on a Sunday in pre-season with many of them hungover and bloated apparently) COYP
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Originally posted by Nicholas91

I do understand the thinking behind a lot of the statements however I don't think it relative here, as it stands.

I don't like the politicisation of such things to any extent, especially football.

Edited by Nicholas91 (17 May 2022 10.06am)

The feminisation of Britain is already underway so I wouldn’t count on nauseating effeminate pro-gay stuff not being forced into the game. It’s the people in marketing and advertising that are always tempted to keep pushing it out there further and further. It’s a game to them and I wouldn’t trust them to just carry on normally. There’s too many sanctimonious snakes without an ounce of integrity. If they could they’d do a remake of the first Sky football advert for the premier league - the one with them all working out in the gym and getting ready and a leg rub down before putting their club’s kit on for the match to ‘Alive and Kicking’ by Simple Minds. They’d do a remake in some gay sauna or something right now if they could.

(That advert was made on a Sunday in pre-season with many of them hungover and bloated apparently)

COYP

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Midlands Eagle 17 May 22 11.27am
Originally posted by Badger11 As another poster suggested it is only the media et al that say football fans (UK) are homophobic, Not so as there is rarely a mention of Brighton on HOL without homosexuality being mentioned but of course that will be dismissed as just being banter
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Originally posted by Badger11

As another poster suggested it is only the media et al that say football fans (UK) are homophobic,

Not so as there is rarely a mention of Brighton on HOL without homosexuality being mentioned but of course that will be dismissed as just being banter

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Stirlingsays 17 May 22 11.32am
Originally posted by Midlands Eagle Not so as there is rarely a mention of Brighton on HOL without homosexuality being mentioned but of course that will be dismissed as just being banter Yeah, and I'm sure Les Dawson really hated his mother-in-law. Nothing's banter is it, it's all hatred. 'Who are you and how did you get in here? I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.' (Leslie Nielsen)
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17 May 22 11.32am

Originally posted by Midlands Eagle

Not so as there is rarely a mention of Brighton on HOL without homosexuality being mentioned but of course that will be dismissed as just being banter

Yeah, and I'm sure Les Dawson really hated his mother-in-law.

Nothing's banter is it, it's all hatred.

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