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 gambler  Kent 28 Apr 15 6.38am |
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Quote johnny the eagle at 28 Apr 2015 12.54am
My ex old woman tried all kinds of angles to squeeze as much as she could out of me. I only got divorced from her last year and we were both in our 60s. She even did me for domestic abuse, which when it went to court was never even bought up or proved. You only have to speak to them in the wrong way for them to get it put in a court order according to my solicitor. Apparently women mostly claim this while going through divorce as a " tactic " to get legal aid. Anyway she did this and got legal aid. And all this sh1t about a 50/50 split is bollix too as she got 120 grand and I got 90 grand and I bought the fecking bungalow we lived in, in the first place. So be careful it's a minefield, bitter me what..... well not really cos the silly cow didn't realise that after she got paid out for her share of my bungalow she had to pay all that legal aid back. The divorce cost me 4 grand all in all, it was the best 4 grand I have ever spent getting rid of the silly cow. She did ring me up after I had vacated the bungalow asking me to pay 65 quid towards a skip to remove rubbish. You can imagine what I said to her very politely like, if it was 65 quid towards a coffin well............... Also I am not a violent man and there was no domestic abuse, but by christ I wish I was a violent man. Thinking back now a funny story really now it's all over, just be careful, or live in a council house don't get married and be a solicitor by profession. They charged me 200 quid an hour for one meeting, nice work if you can get it. If the op's solicitor is only charging 100 quid an hour grab him or her you could do hire one get one free. Good luck, hope it all works out for you. All sorts of thoughts went through my head whilst I was going through it. Seriously the darkest things imaginable.
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Forest Hillbilly  in a hidey-hole 28 Apr 15 7.42am |
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Quote npn at 27 Apr 2015 4.56pm
Thanks for that. The sad thing is she's already had a consultation with a solicitor, and is now coming back with all the stuff she believes she's entitled to (a very generous offer to sell both cars despite them both being in his name and her having no legal interest in them whatsoever, pay off the loans on them, and split the proceeds 50/50 with which to go and buy a car each was rejected on the grounds she'd end up with an older car than she has). She's also assuming she'll get the house and he will move out and find a place, and continue to pay the mortgage on 'her' place, as well as maintenance for the kids. Whilst I suspect that's sadly likely, it seems very unfair and, of course, without legal advice he only has her word for what was said by the solicitor, and what the legal standing is. I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up. The woman has had her head turned by a solicitor looking to exploit the situation. Only the solicitors win (financially) in divorces. The more money spunked on solicitors means less for the two parties and the kids. Arbitration is the way to go Edited by Forest Hillbilly (28 Apr 2015 7.43am)
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Johnny Eagles  berlin 28 Apr 15 8.18am |
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The short term greed thing is smart. Mate of mine is getting divorved. He's basically bribing her to sign over the house and any future requests for alimony. She's already blown most of the cash (why spend a few hundred on new furniture when you can spend a few grand?) and shacked up with his cousin. She's still agreeing to sign but it's taking ages and he's got to be mr nice guy in the mean time. Luckily no kids. Women, money-grabbing slags. I'm never getting married. Happy to give them presents, pay for holidays etc but no way are they getting their grubby mitts on my property. (I'm so romantic). Think I can live without kids too.
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| Jacey 28 Apr 15 8.37am |
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Always difficult with young children involved and their welfare will be put first by any Court,rightly so. In my own experience,as others have said,best to somehow keep an amicable dialogue going,the absence of which will be seized upon by lawyers,who will then bump up the legal fees in all the resultant wrangling. Not wanting to depress you, but my ex wife, who never worked a day in her life, ended up at the age of 51 with half my pension,half my savings and a property and i was considered fortunate to many. No children involved either and i still believe that divorce settlements in the UK are still very much geared to ex wives.
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| Hoof Hearted 28 Apr 15 8.57am | |
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I did rather well out of my divorce! My job was relocating to Bristol and she didn't want to go (I didn't want her to go either LOL). She kicked up a fuss and made me wait years for the divorce. In that time our former home in Carshalton had increased in value enormously and she had to re-mortgage herself and pay me a pretty tidy sum! I was getting my rent in Bristol paid by my company as part of the relocation package and when that deal run out I had a nice deposit on a house of my own. Happy Days!
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| Eunectes Aberystwyth 28 Apr 15 9.41am |
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Always be wary of people saying "it's all amicable" and that you don't need a solicitor. I did that, she got a solicitor and I ended up getting taken to the cleaners and spent ten years working my bollocks off to clear debts for assets I didn't have. Might work in some cases but it pays to be careful. Saying that, I did get custody of my son, so did get the most important part of the deal.
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| jamiemartin721 Reading 28 Apr 15 11.02am |
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Quote elgrande at 27 Apr 2015 5.23pm
Divorce courtsvwill almost always side with the mother(if kids are involved). The court tends to side with whoever the kids spend the most time with, which is usually the mother (in about 70% of cases, because the father tends to have the primary income). Under UK law, child protection and rights take precedence over most other matters. Friend of mine won custody of his children, and his ex wife lost the house and pays ancillary relief to him every month. If there are children involved, you'll probably best off getting good legal council. Not necessarily for the divorce itself, but in order to establish ancillary relief and child custody.
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PalazioVecchio  south pole 28 Apr 15 11.28am |
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it still amazes me that any fella would commit to getting married. It doesn't matter if she looks like a supermodel, talks like a history professor, goes like the clappers, cooks like gordon ramsey and understands the offside rule. marriage is a bum deal for blokes.
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| Pikester Worthing 28 Apr 15 1.05pm |
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Quote PalazioVecchio at 28 Apr 2015 11.28am
it still amazes me that any fella would commit to getting married. It doesn't matter if she looks like a supermodel, talks like a history professor, goes like the clappers, cooks like gordon ramsey and understands the offside rule. marriage is a bum deal for blokes. Looks like a supermodel and cooks like Gordon Ramsey. ... Ahh now I see where I went wrong.
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| masonic_palace Gatport Airwick 28 Apr 15 1.17pm |
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All I will say is be prepared for a long fight, significant legal fees and incompetent court officials. If she has legal representation do not try and fight her without it - you will get taken to the cleaners. My decree absolute was pronounced last June - the b1tch is still arguing over the house. It's taken me £9k in legal fees to finally get the place on the market.... Edited by masonic_palace (28 Apr 2015 1.19pm)
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| paperhat croydon 28 Apr 15 1.18pm |
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Divorce advice; 1) Don't get married. 2) If point 1 ignored, get a solicitor.
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| paperhat croydon 28 Apr 15 1.18pm |
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Quote Pikester at 28 Apr 2015 1.05pm
Quote PalazioVecchio at 28 Apr 2015 11.28am
it still amazes me that any fella would commit to getting married. It doesn't matter if she looks like a supermodel, talks like a history professor, goes like the clappers, cooks like gordon ramsey and understands the offside rule. marriage is a bum deal for blokes. Looks like a supermodel and cooks like Gordon Ramsey. ... Ahh now I see where I went wrong. more likely to be cooks like a supermodel and looks like Gordon Ramsey tbh
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