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 eaglelad  19 Nov 16 3.31am |
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Originally posted by matt_himself
There is a fine line for what you are planning to do. Going abroad to meet her may make her think that you are a 'special friend'. This is the worst male-female dynamic for a 'bone fide' chap to be involved in. This means she will expect long meals, involving chocolate desserts and rose, followed by long chats on a bridge over looking a river exchanging your dreams, secrets and desires, followed by you sleeping together in the same bed with your pants on but just sleeping. She will believe you have a life long connection and will not view you as a sexual threat at all. This situation has to be avoided as it will be costly, frustrating and it may get insinuated, as a result, around social media that you 'know what is in your flowerbeds', which if you are not that way inclined, will kill your chances of you getting any muff for a long time. Therefore make an informed decision as to whether you think the above will happen and if you even think there is a 30% chance of such an occurrence, suggest you invest your hard earned in a visit to Inferno or Agenda, where if you buy a bottle of Moët or two, you are pretty much guaranteed to get your nob wet. Might not be the most romantic of exchanges but it will count. Edited by matt_himself (18 Nov 2016 6.20pm) Thanks so much matt_himself and cuckingfunt...Some really poignant words....I do feel I am mugging myself off here and putting myself in a strange Friendzone by travelling all the way...so I am going to FaceTime here (video call) to see how much of a connection there is. I think because I am besotted by her I am thinking she will love this visit gesture. I say that because when she was here in London, her bf from Spain who she broke up with (because he didn't reply to a text after 3 days or something like that when I asked her why she broke up) came to visit her in the London - this was before I met her. But she was seeing a Spanish girl at the time from her Uni and the bf didn't know. As soon as I found out she was a Lesbian, I thought, ah well....so I though,let me just friend zone myself.....so offered to take her to a Lesbian bar (partly because I though it would be a nice gesture and I'd never been to one)....then she says doesn't like those bars and doesn't see herself as a lesbian, more someone who loves anyone....stating she only just broke up with her bf in the Summer, who came to visit.... So I though, damn, I want her now....She is so beautiful and loves To partake in Sports like I do like Rugby and especially Surfing.... So I thought, let me visit her to see if a long distant relationship could work....but am thinking to FaceTime first before I put all this money in to visit. But you guys are right - if the lady takes the lead - I will be an emotional wreck.....I just need to enjoy my nights out and maybe just keep being good friends with her as she may have some fit Spanish mates....But she does run through my mind, regularly Plus, get this - her best mate is a Bloke!? A Bloke who went to Uni with her....Maybe she gets on with guys and I am reading the wrong end of the stick here....I need to see her body language and voice tones when I speak with her next. Edited by eaglelad (19 Nov 2016 3.44am)
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| matt_himself Matataland 19 Nov 16 8.08am |
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Originally posted by eaglelad
Thanks so much matt_himself and cuckingfunt...Some really poignant words....I do feel I am mugging myself off here and putting myself in a strange Friendzone by travelling all the way...so I am going to FaceTime here (video call) to see how much of a connection there is. I think because I am besotted by her I am thinking she will love this visit gesture. I say that because when she was here in London, her bf from Spain who she broke up with (because he didn't reply to a text after 3 days or something like that when I asked her why she broke up) came to visit her in the London - this was before I met her. But she was seeing a Spanish girl at the time from her Uni and the bf didn't know. As soon as I found out she was a Lesbian, I thought, ah well....so I though,let me just friend zone myself.....so offered to take her to a Lesbian bar (partly because I though it would be a nice gesture and I'd never been to one)....then she says doesn't like those bars and doesn't see herself as a lesbian, more someone who loves anyone....stating she only just broke up with her bf in the Summer, who came to visit.... So I though, damn, I want her now....She is so beautiful and loves To partake in Sports like I do like Rugby and especially Surfing.... So I thought, let me visit her to see if a long distant relationship could work....but am thinking to FaceTime first before I put all this money in to visit. But you guys are right - if the lady takes the lead - I will be an emotional wreck.....I just need to enjoy my nights out and maybe just keep being good friends with her as she may have some fit Spanish mates....But she does run through my mind, regularly Plus, get this - her best mate is a Bloke!? A Bloke who went to Uni with her....Maybe she gets on with guys and I am reading the wrong end of the stick here....I need to see her body language and voice tones when I speak with her next. Edited by eaglelad (19 Nov 2016 3.44am) This woman sounds like a crash crash happening in slow motion. She appears to be stringing you along, titilating you and pushing you away at the same time, displaying traits of downright mentstral lunacy, possessiveness and self absorbing, mind f*** inducing psychological control. If I were you, I would run a f***ing mile. By her saying she is 'someone who loves anyone' means she probably has Daddy issues and is a bit of a slapper. Stick to the plan. Get yourself down Reflex, buy a couple of fishbowls & a bottle of vodka and let the women migrate to you. Edited by matt_himself (19 Nov 2016 8.13am)
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| eaglelad 19 Nov 16 8.42am |
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Originally posted by matt_himself
This woman sounds like a crash crash happening in slow motion. She appears to be stringing you along, titilating you and pushing you away at the same time, displaying traits of downright mentstral lunacy, possessiveness and self absorbing, mind f*** inducing psychological control. If I were you, I would run a f***ing mile. By her saying she is 'someone who loves anyone' means she probably has Daddy issues and is a bit of a slapper. Stick to the plan. Get yourself down Reflex, buy a couple of fishbowls & a bottle of vodka and let the women migrate to you. Edited by matt_himself (19 Nov 2016 8.13am) Haha, good description. Car crash in slow motion for sure. My other mates say I should tell her I love her if I can't stop thinking about her, but it's much harder when you kinda do like them a lot, as I never met someone who loves Surfing so much like I do and who always makes plans to do stuff (when she was here we went to Rugby matches, went for walks at night...it felt like I was dating her - I think I got caught up into the illusion :/...But really wanna go on more Surf trips with her, so if I say I love her and then it turns sour, I would have stuffed some great Surfing trips. She must know I love her, because like a stupid school boy mistake, I posted her stuff through to her for her birthday - like a book she always wanted to read and a couple of Rugby balls that she loved and loadsa tiny bits reminding her of her time at the Uni in London where we met for that brief time, on her Uni exchange here. True re: the daddy issues,lol, maybes - but she always talks in high regard about her dad, and parents in general, so I don't think it's that. She told me of a girl she had a relationship with in Spain when she was younger - but she got psychologically mindfcuked by her she said - to the point where she couldn't get out of bed for Uni lecture/exam....Then, on a Surf Trip, But you're right, I need to attract her to me...which is why I have been uploading pics of nights out with randomising girls from nights out - because I would love to have a future with this girl - but hope it is reciprocated. Here's hoping. Thanks for your advice and insights - it has helped me a lot - as she is the first thing I think of in the morning and the last thing at night :/ Edited by eaglelad (19 Nov 2016 8.57am)
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....but yeh, I asked her mate about the guy she was dating and she said how he pulled my crush at her house, twice!?...and still remained amicable.....So I am thinking I have a chance - I just need to muster the courage on a night out with her plied up with alcohol to go in and see what happens....but maybe not on a Madrid visit...dunno, maybe over FaceTime, thus face to face....or on a SurfTrip...
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