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npn Crowborough 27 Apr 15 3.10pm
Not for me (honest). Anyone been through this and can offer any advice on how best to go about it if you can't afford a £100 an hour solicitor? Hoping to keep it as friendly as possible, but also keen to avoid being taken to the cleaners and paying out for her luxuries while living in a cardboard box. No dodgy behaviour (infedelity, abuse, etc) involved. Kids and house involved.
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Crowborough 27 Apr 15 3.10pm

Not for me (honest).

Anyone been through this and can offer any advice on how best to go about it if you can't afford a £100 an hour solicitor? Hoping to keep it as friendly as possible, but also keen to avoid being taken to the cleaners and paying out for her luxuries while living in a cardboard box.

No dodgy behaviour (infedelity, abuse, etc) involved.

Kids and house involved.

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Y Ddraig Goch In The Crowd 27 Apr 15 4.49pm
If it's amicable you don't need a solicitor. I didn't and everything was fine. Depending on age of kids the magistrate will want to make sure that adequate support is in place. That all is covered off in the paperwork. My top tip would be to keep it as amicable as possible all the way through great for your wallet but even better for the kids the dignified don't even enter in the game
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In The Crowd 27 Apr 15 4.49pm

If it's amicable you don't need a solicitor. I didn't and everything was fine.

Depending on age of kids the magistrate will want to make sure that adequate support is in place. That all is covered off in the paperwork.

My top tip would be to keep it as amicable as possible all the way through great for your wallet but even better for the kids

the dignified don't even enter in the game

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npn Crowborough 27 Apr 15 4.56pm
Thanks for that. The sad thing is she's already had a consultation with a solicitor, and is now coming back with all the stuff she believes she's entitled to (a very generous offer to sell both cars despite them both being in his name and her having no legal interest in them whatsoever, pay off the loans on them, and split the proceeds 50/50 with which to go and buy a car each was rejected on the grounds she'd end up with an older car than she has). She's also assuming she'll get the house and he will move out and find a place, and continue to pay the mortgage on 'her' place, as well as maintenance for the kids. Whilst I suspect that's sadly likely, it seems very unfair and, of course, without legal advice he only has her word for what was said by the solicitor, and what the legal standing is. I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up.
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Crowborough 27 Apr 15 4.56pm

Thanks for that.

The sad thing is she's already had a consultation with a solicitor, and is now coming back with all the stuff she believes she's entitled to (a very generous offer to sell both cars despite them both being in his name and her having no legal interest in them whatsoever, pay off the loans on them, and split the proceeds 50/50 with which to go and buy a car each was rejected on the grounds she'd end up with an older car than she has).

She's also assuming she'll get the house and he will move out and find a place, and continue to pay the mortgage on 'her' place, as well as maintenance for the kids. Whilst I suspect that's sadly likely, it seems very unfair and, of course, without legal advice he only has her word for what was said by the solicitor, and what the legal standing is.

I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up.

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susmik PLYMOUTH -But Made in Old Coulsdon... 27 Apr 15 5.15pm
Quote npn at 27 Apr 2015 4.56pm Thanks for that. The sad thing is she's already had a consultation with a solicitor, and is now coming back with all the stuff she believes she's entitled to (a very generous offer to sell both cars despite them both being in his name and her having no legal interest in them whatsoever, pay off the loans on them, and split the proceeds 50/50 with which to go and buy a car each was rejected on the grounds she'd end up with an older car than she has). She's also assuming she'll get the house and he will move out and find a place, and continue to pay the mortgage on 'her' place, as well as maintenance for the kids. Whilst I suspect that's sadly likely, it seems very unfair and, of course, without legal advice he only has her word for what was said by the solicitor, and what the legal standing is. I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up. Tell him to get a solicitor unless he wants to get taken for a ride. It seems his other half has done her homework and has a solicitor that has filled her head with all kinds of things. The only trouble is with having kids he might well lose the house, it all depends on things like being able to pay maintenance for them and the mortgage payments. I feel there must be a divorce solicitor amongst the many Palace fans that come on these boards so could probably give you the best advice on how to go about things so you can convey information to your friend. Supported Palace for over 69 years since the age of 7 and have seen all the ups and downs and will probably see many more ups and downs before I go up to the big football club in the sky.
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Quote npn at 27 Apr 2015 4.56pm

Thanks for that.

I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up.

Tell him to get a solicitor unless he wants to get taken for a ride. It seems his other half has done her homework and has a solicitor that has filled her head with all kinds of things. The only trouble is with having kids he might well lose the house, it all depends on things like being able to pay maintenance for them and the mortgage payments. I feel there must be a divorce solicitor amongst the many Palace fans that come on these boards so could probably give you the best advice on how to go about things so you can convey information to your friend.

Supported Palace for over 69 years since the age of 7 and have seen all the ups and downs and will probably see many more ups and downs before I go up to the big football club in the sky.

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elgrande bedford 27 Apr 15 5.23pm
Divorce courtsvwill almost always side with the mother(if kids are involved). So she will get the house and a large maintenance order, rightly so if kids are still young. But a mate of mine caught his wife cheating and she still got the house and,and nearly £600 a month, and the mortgage on top. I have been divorced three times,but luckily fairly amicable. And paid for my kids until they were old enough. always a Norwood boy, where ever I live.
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bedford 27 Apr 15 5.23pm

Divorce courtsvwill almost always side with the mother(if kids are involved).
So she will get the house and a large maintenance order, rightly so if kids are still young.
But a mate of mine caught his wife cheating and she still got the house and,and nearly £600 a month, and the mortgage on top.
I have been divorced three times,but luckily fairly amicable.
And paid for my kids until they were old enough.

always a Norwood boy, where ever I live.

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radsyrendot From Coventry now in Leicester 27 Apr 15 5.34pm
hope all gets sorted smoothly
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From Coventry now in Leicester 27 Apr 15 5.34pm

hope all gets sorted smoothly

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Pussay Patrol 27 Apr 15 5.34pm
Quote npn at 27 Apr 2015 4.56pm Thanks for that. The sad thing is she's already had a consultation with a solicitor, and is now coming back with all the stuff she believes she's entitled to (a very generous offer to sell both cars despite them both being in his name and her having no legal interest in them whatsoever, pay off the loans on them, and split the proceeds 50/50 with which to go and buy a car each was rejected on the grounds she'd end up with an older car than she has). She's also assuming she'll get the house and he will move out and find a place, and continue to pay the mortgage on 'her' place, as well as maintenance for the kids. Whilst I suspect that's sadly likely, it seems very unfair and, of course, without legal advice he only has her word for what was said by the solicitor, and what the legal standing is. I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up. It's called mediation, i've been to this myself recently. Still not cheap though. By the sounds of it, it doesn't sound very 'amicable' sounds like she gets everything and he gets royally shafted. I'd say sell everything split it all 50/50 and offer to have the kids yourself. Paua oouaarancì Irà chiyeah Ishé galé ma ba oo ah
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27 Apr 15 5.34pm

Quote npn at 27 Apr 2015 4.56pm

Thanks for that.

I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up.

It's called mediation, i've been to this myself recently. Still not cheap though.

By the sounds of it, it doesn't sound very 'amicable' sounds like she gets everything and he gets royally shafted.

I'd say sell everything split it all 50/50 and offer to have the kids yourself.

Paua oouaarancì Irà chiyeah Ishé galé ma ba oo ah

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Johnny Eagles berlin 27 Apr 15 5.38pm
Maybe she needs to move back to Glasgow, like Fred West's first wife. ...we must expand...get more pupils...so that the knowledge will spread...
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berlin 27 Apr 15 5.38pm

Maybe she needs to move back to Glasgow, like Fred West's first wife.

...we must expand...get more pupils...so that the knowledge will spread...

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kingdowieonthewall Sussex, ex-Cronx. 27 Apr 15 5.43pm
Quote elgrande at 27 Apr 2015 5.23pm Divorce courtsvwill almost always side with the mother(if kids are involved). So she will get the house and a large maintenance order, rightly so if kids are still young. But a mate of mine caught his wife cheating and she still got the house and,and nearly £600 a month, and the mortgage on top. I have been divorced three times,but luckily fairly amicable. And paid for my kids until they were old enough. ooh, listen to Elizabeth taylor here Edited by kingdowieonthewall (27 Apr 2015 5.43pm) Kids,tired of being bothered by your pesky parents? Then leave home, get a job & pay your own bills, while you still know everything.
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Quote elgrande at 27 Apr 2015 5.23pm

Divorce courtsvwill almost always side with the mother(if kids are involved).
So she will get the house and a large maintenance order, rightly so if kids are still young.
But a mate of mine caught his wife cheating and she still got the house and,and nearly £600 a month, and the mortgage on top.
I have been divorced three times,but luckily fairly amicable.
And paid for my kids until they were old enough.

ooh, listen to Elizabeth taylor here

Edited by kingdowieonthewall (27 Apr 2015 5.43pm)

Kids,tired of being bothered by your pesky parents?
Then leave home, get a job & pay your own bills, while you still know everything.

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Lyons550 Shirley 27 Apr 15 6.42pm
Quote npn at 27 Apr 2015 4.56pm Thanks for that. The sad thing is she's already had a consultation with a solicitor, and is now coming back with all the stuff she believes she's entitled to (a very generous offer to sell both cars despite them both being in his name and her having no legal interest in them whatsoever, pay off the loans on them, and split the proceeds 50/50 with which to go and buy a car each was rejected on the grounds she'd end up with an older car than she has). She's also assuming she'll get the house and he will move out and find a place, and continue to pay the mortgage on 'her' place, as well as maintenance for the kids. Whilst I suspect that's sadly likely, it seems very unfair and, of course, without legal advice he only has her word for what was said by the solicitor, and what the legal standing is. I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up. My other half went through arbitration and found it useful...she still had to pay through the nose for solicitors fees £10k due the tooing and froing between the solicitors. It WILL save money but divorce is an expensive thing. The Voice of Reason In An Otherwise Mediocre World
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Shirley 27 Apr 15 6.42pm

Quote npn at 27 Apr 2015 4.56pm

Thanks for that.

I've suggested arbitration, but I don't know anyone who's done it so have no idea how it's likely to end up.

My other half went through arbitration and found it useful...she still had to pay through the nose for solicitors fees £10k due the tooing and froing between the solicitors. It WILL save money but divorce is an expensive thing.

The Voice of Reason In An Otherwise Mediocre World

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elgrande bedford 27 Apr 15 7.01pm
Quote kingdowieonthewall at 27 Apr 2015 5.43pm Quote elgrande at 27 Apr 2015 5.23pm Divorce courtsvwill almost always side with the mother(if kids are involved). So she will get the house and a large maintenance order, rightly so if kids are still young. But a mate of mine caught his wife cheating and she still got the house and,and nearly £600 a month, and the mortgage on top. I have been divorced three times,but luckily fairly amicable. And paid for my kids until they were old enough. ooh, listen to Elizabeth taylor here Edited by kingdowieonthewall (27 Apr 2015 5.43pm) always a Norwood boy, where ever I live.
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elgrande

bedford 27 Apr 15 7.01pm

Quote kingdowieonthewall at 27 Apr 2015 5.43pm

Quote elgrande at 27 Apr 2015 5.23pm

Divorce courtsvwill almost always side with the mother(if kids are involved).
So she will get the house and a large maintenance order, rightly so if kids are still young.
But a mate of mine caught his wife cheating and she still got the house and,and nearly £600 a month, and the mortgage on top.
I have been divorced three times,but luckily fairly amicable.
And paid for my kids until they were old enough.

ooh, listen to Elizabeth taylor here

Edited by kingdowieonthewall (27 Apr 2015 5.43pm)

always a Norwood boy, where ever I live.

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Qwijibo Bournemouth 27 Apr 15 7.28pm
In this age of equality why is it these people get 'everything' despite contributing nothing. End then have insane bias in terms of child access. I'm trying to phrase this dispassionately. I realise I'm struggling.
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Qwijibo

Bournemouth 27 Apr 15 7.28pm

In this age of equality why is it these people get 'everything' despite contributing nothing. End then have insane bias in terms of child access.

I'm trying to phrase this dispassionately. I realise I'm struggling.

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