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coulsdoneagle London 17 Oct 17 8.05pm
Originally posted by Ray in Houston Ever told a female colleague that she looks good today? Ever said that to a male colleague? See the problem? Approaching someone in a public setting (bar, club etc.) and throwing a line is not what's at issue here. It's throwing a line when the power dynamic is mismatched, like a boss to an employee or a producer to an actress. When you do that, you are walking a dangerous line where you may be, at best, belittling that person's value as a colleague because you are judging her appearance; at worse, you may make her feel threatened because she may just be creeped out by the fact you're looking at her that way. Simple rule of thumb: treat female colleagues, employees or anyone else you meet in a non-social situation as you would a man. Then, you will never have to worry that you've crossed the line into creeper territory. As a bonus, you'll get laughed at a lot less behind your back. Very well said Ray.
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Originally posted by Ray in Houston

Ever told a female colleague that she looks good today? Ever said that to a male colleague? See the problem?

Approaching someone in a public setting (bar, club etc.) and throwing a line is not what's at issue here. It's throwing a line when the power dynamic is mismatched, like a boss to an employee or a producer to an actress. When you do that, you are walking a dangerous line where you may be, at best, belittling that person's value as a colleague because you are judging her appearance; at worse, you may make her feel threatened because she may just be creeped out by the fact you're looking at her that way.

Simple rule of thumb: treat female colleagues, employees or anyone else you meet in a non-social situation as you would a man. Then, you will never have to worry that you've crossed the line into creeper territory. As a bonus, you'll get laughed at a lot less behind your back.

Very well said Ray.

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nickgusset Shizzlehurst 17 Oct 17 8.05pm
Originally posted by pefwin It is the soul-crushing number of "Me Too" comments that is beginning to push my credibility. Yes I expect that there are many and serious claims which deserve a court airing, but..........in the rush to be a victim and join the club, anything seems to be classed as harassment, for example, the man who got a written warning for telling a woman she was looking good (Radio 5 monday). What actress would be applauding their agent for ATM stating "nobody ever tried it on with her". The whole thing is supposed to show how many women have been affected by this. Its meant to highlight how widespread the issue is. Certainly doing that. I'd imagine, though I might be wrong, those complaining are the sort that think saying 'I would but only if it were humiliating for her' can be construed as a 'joke'. Part of the problem but they don't want to admit it. Edited by nickgusset (17 Oct 2017 8.07pm)
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Shizzlehurst 17 Oct 17 8.05pm

Originally posted by pefwin

It is the soul-crushing number of "Me Too" comments that is beginning to push my credibility. Yes I expect that there are many and serious claims which deserve a court airing, but..........in the rush to be a victim and join the club, anything seems to be classed as harassment, for example, the man who got a written warning for telling a woman she was looking good (Radio 5 monday).

What actress would be applauding their agent for ATM stating "nobody ever tried it on with her".

The whole thing is supposed to show how many women have been affected by this. Its meant to highlight how widespread the issue is. Certainly doing that.

I'd imagine, though I might be wrong, those complaining are the sort that think saying 'I would but only if it were humiliating for her' can be construed as a 'joke'.

Part of the problem but they don't want to admit it.

Edited by nickgusset (17 Oct 2017 8.07pm)

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Hrolf The Ganger 17 Oct 17 8.15pm
Originally posted by Ray in Houston Ever told a female colleague that she looks good today? Ever said that to a male colleague? See the problem? Approaching someone in a public setting (bar, club etc.) and throwing a line is not what's at issue here. It's throwing a line when the power dynamic is mismatched, like a boss to an employee or a producer to an actress. When you do that, you are walking a dangerous line where you may be, at best, belittling that person's value as a colleague because you are judging her appearance; at worse, you may make her feel threatened because she may just be creeped out by the fact you're looking at her that way. Simple rule of thumb: treat female colleagues, employees or anyone else you meet in a non-social situation as you would a man. Then, you will never have to worry that you've crossed the line into creeper territory. As a bonus, you'll get laughed at a lot less behind your back. What a wonderful picture you paint of the 21st century. Scared to breath in case you offend someone.
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Originally posted by Ray in Houston

Ever told a female colleague that she looks good today? Ever said that to a male colleague? See the problem?

Simple rule of thumb: treat female colleagues, employees or anyone else you meet in a non-social situation as you would a man. Then, you will never have to worry that you've crossed the line into creeper territory. As a bonus, you'll get laughed at a lot less behind your back.

What a wonderful picture you paint of the 21st century. Scared to breath in case you offend someone.

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Ray in Houston Houston 17 Oct 17 8.48pm
Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger What a wonderful picture you paint of the 21st century. Scared to breath in case you offend someone. You highlighted the part of my post where I said that it's better to treat men and women equally, and then you wrote the above. Wow. We don't do possession; we do defense and attack. Everything else is just wa**ing with a football.
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Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger

What a wonderful picture you paint of the 21st century. Scared to breath in case you offend someone.

You highlighted the part of my post where I said that it's better to treat men and women equally, and then you wrote the above. Wow.

We don't do possession; we do defense and attack. Everything else is just wa**ing with a football.

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Michaelawt85 Bexley 17 Oct 17 9.35pm
Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger What a wonderful picture you paint of the 21st century. Scared to breath in case you offend someone. You sound like a complete misogynist When I was a young girl my Mother said to me.. You listen here kid you're CPFC
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Michaelawt85

Bexley 17 Oct 17 9.35pm

Originally posted by Hrolf The Ganger

What a wonderful picture you paint of the 21st century. Scared to breath in case you offend someone.

You sound like a complete misogynist

When I was a young girl my Mother said to me.. You listen here kid you're CPFC

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Ray in Houston Houston 18 Oct 17 2.44pm
Originally posted by Michaelawt85 You sound like a complete misogynist When people tell you who they are, you should listen to them. We don't do possession; we do defense and attack. Everything else is just wa**ing with a football.
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Ray in Houston

Houston 18 Oct 17 2.44pm

Originally posted by Michaelawt85

You sound like a complete misogynist

When people tell you who they are, you should listen to them.

We don't do possession; we do defense and attack. Everything else is just wa**ing with a football.

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